Duong Thu Huong: Every sadness has a way to compromise

When facing Duong Thu Huong - a beautiful, smart and successful woman as a foreign director at IDG Ventures Vietnam, many people often wonder: How does she live? When she's sad, is she like any other normal woman?

Women in management often create feelings of difficulty due to the nature of the work. Do you think that is true for yourself?

“Due to my strong personality, some newcomers have a feeling that I'm difficult to get close to, even a bit chubby. I see someone quite subjective at first glance. Friends are sometimes predestined, many people know each other for decades, but they only stop at the level of rudeness. Besides, there are people who understand each other, and are close even though there is not much time to learn is not much.”

Foreign affairs require you to meet and create good relationships with many people. Have you ever felt tired and pressured because not everyone makes you like them?

“I don't think doing any job needs to "try" to be friendly. For me, work must firstly match the personality of each person, so they will work excitedly and naturally. This job suits me because I like to talk with many people, like to learn new things, to learn more good things, strange things, to contemplate …

Having tried a lot of things, from numbers, director of software companies, to assistant strategy for Unilever, I realize that working with people is the most interesting. Each person is an interesting hidden treasure that I have learned a lot from them.

I have never been unhappy because someone is not suitable for me. In my opinion, any relationship, including love, takes time. There is love at first sight, but also feelings that are fully nurtured until a day breaks out.”

People usually said that “women over the age of 30 often do not believe in love at first sight”, what about you?

“I think people want to mention the maturity of the woman having had experiences in life. I have not had love at first sight, but I always believe that anything can happen. People can flourish in love at any time. I agree that over 30 years old, love, at first sight, will be hard to come by, but… who knows. Anything can happen! (laugh)”

Having broken up in a marriage, what role do you think men and lovers play in your life?

“Not because of my breakdown that I have prejudice towards men. I don't like the phrase "broken" because it sounds a bit negative, called "break up" is more neutral.

In marriage, there are irreconcilable differences. If we are not mentally prepared for changes and adapt to the common life, we cannot be in harmony. Breaking up is probably a good solution. Therefore, I do not put that much emphasis on that. Of course, I was sad, but I wasn't too sorrowful. I also do not have a pessimistic view of marriage.

The role of a man in a family, or a lover to me, has never changed. My ideal man must be a tolerant man.”

Talking to you, I found you to be quite alert and almost always in control. So in times of sadness how do you usually react?

Up to now, only my parents can make me sad and worried. Other things, I always keep as average as possible. My personality is rarely sad. When I'm sad, I lie at home reading and watching movies, but for a while, I have to go out to meet my friends.

For someone who always has things to reconcile in life, there is a way to compromise in any sadness. Work, friends and family are three mutual factors that help me a lot when I encounter heavy and difficult things in life.

I have read a very good sentence: "Humans have always suffered, but the most suffering and failure is that even their heart betrays themselves, is on the side of suffering and sorrow". Do not indulge in sadness, let your heart breathe so that you can do other things.”

But sadness sometimes has its charm and attraction too?

“Yes, a good piece of music is because it has high notes, low notes, and low notes. When we encounter suffering in life, sometimes we should also keep gnawing sadness, to experience different flavours in life. I also have times when I sit alone to feel my sadness and I like a sadness that doesn't bother others, letting others like me even when I'm sad.”

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